What Are The Rules Of Co-Parenting?

As a parent you always have the right to contact your children after a divorce. Parents determine together what such an access arrangement will look like. What rights and obligations do you have as a parent if you choose co-parenting?

You may have heard of co-parenting before. It’s a well-known term when it comes to parenting after divorce. But what exactly does it mean? And what are the rules? We list it.

Co-parenting: the facts

A co-parenting arrangement is not laid down by law, which means that the rules as you lay them down in a so-called parenting plan are the rules that apply. It has been established that you are both responsible for the care and upbringing of the child, but this applies to any access arrangement with joint custody. We list a few facts about the co-parenting arrangement:

Co-parenting means that you share the care and upbringing of the children equally. So you see the child about as often, you are equally involved in the child’s daily life, and the child lives in two households.

Co-parenting is not laid down by law, so in principle the arrangement has nothing to do with parental authority or alimony.

A co-parental arrangement often does affect the amount of child maintenance: after all, you take care of the child about the same amount. The costs you incur can be divided according to capacity (the parent who earns the most pays more), by the number of care days (the parent who takes care of the child the most receives a fixed amount extra from the other) or equivalent ( each parent pays half).

If agreements about co-parenting have been laid down (for example in the parenting plan), you cannot simply change them.

As soon as children reach the age of 18, parental authority ceases, and with that often also the co-parenting arrangement.